An Age-by-Age Guide: Key Financial Questions Every Woman Should Ask

“Just talking about money with friends can be powerful and empowering. Talk leads to action.”—Lorna Sabbia, head of Retirement & Personal Wealth Solutions, Bank of America

Forty-one percent of the women surveyed for “Women and Financial Wellness: Beyond the Bottom Line,” a 2018 Merrill study conducted in partnership with Age Wave, said that “they wish they had invested more of their money. One potential answer? “Just talking about money with friends can be powerful and empowering,” says Lorna Sabbia, head of Retirement & Personal Wealth Solutions at Bank of America. “Talk leads to action.”

To get the conversation going, you might start an investing book club or money circle discussion group. A money circle group gives you and your friends the opportunity to share financial goals and ideas, ask questions and learn from one another.

You can also try creating a stock watch list online. Check the performance of the stocks you’ve selected on a weekly basis. It costs you nothing to do that—and it’s a great way to begin to get a sense of how the stock market works.

Ideally, you should try to save at least 15% of your salary every year. This is particularly sound advice for women, who live longer than men and can be at risk of outliving their assets. But the wage gap can make saving difficult. In 2018, women earned 85% of what men earned, according to a Pew Research Center analysis.¹ If you’re earning less, you’re likely to save less as a result.

“Try to increase your savings a little every year—when you get a raise, increase the amount you put away for your future.”—Lorna Sabbia, head of Retirement & Personal Wealth Solutions, Bank of America

Sabbia recommends sharpening your negotiating skills. “Then ask for a raise, if you think you deserve one. Try to put as much away as you can toward your retirement—you’ll be glad to have the financial resources you need when you reach retirement.”

If 15% isn’t possible, at least see if you can contribute enough to qualify for the full match, if your employer offers one. Many employers require you to put in between 4% and 6% of your pay to get the maximum match. “It’s like free money,” notes Sabbia, “so do your best to capture it.” And then try to increase your savings a little every year—when you get a raise, increase the amount you put away for your future.

This is a tricky one. It’s certainly appropriate to have joint accounts and a mortgage in both your names. And separation of money can trigger feelings that one partner doesn’t trust the other. But generally, it’s smart to keep your retirement account, a bank account, and at least one credit card—plus a utility bill—in your own name.

“There are several reasons for the ‘me, you and us’ approach.”—Kirstin Hill, managing director, Global Wealth and Investment Management, Bank of America

There are several reasons for the “me, you and us” approach, says Kirstin Hill, managing director, Global Wealth and Investment Management at Bank of America. It’s important to preserve your access to your own spending money. It’s also not unusual for couples to have different investing styles—you may prefer to invest more aggressively than your spouse, for instance—and having your own brokerage account allows you to express that style. It’s critical to maintain a financial identity in your own name for another important reason: Should the unthinkable happen and you divorce or become widowed, having a solid credit history and financial accounts in your name can help smooth the way as you transition to a solo financial life again.

Chances are you can, as long as you and your spouse have planned ahead financially. If you’re thinking of taking a career break, it’s a good idea to sit down with an advisor and discuss the impact that relying on one income instead of two might have on your family’s finances. Keep in mind that during that period you won’t be socking away money for retirement through an employer plan. What you can do, says Kirstin Hill, managing director, Global Wealth and Investment Management at Bank of America, is have your spouse contribute to a spousal IRA instead.

Staying in touch professionally by attending conferences or consulting can help you if or when you decide to re-enter the workforce, she adds. Read “Can You Afford to Be a Stay-at-Home Parent?” for more insights.

Feel free to interview a couple of advisors to find one you trust and feel comfortable with. Remember: you’re interviewing them, not the other way around.

It’s a good idea to work with someone who has experience dealing with the financial issues that concern you—and who can help you articulate your goals and priorities,  says Lorna Sabbia, head of Retirement & Personal Wealth Solutions at Bank of America. You want someone with whom you can talk openly about your life, not just your money.

A good advisor will understand your whole picture—your caregiving demands, your career, your financial goals (which might be different from your partner’s), your philanthropic interests and your risk tolerance. Feel free to interview a couple of advisors to find one you trust and feel comfortable with. Remember: you’re interviewing them, not the other way around.

Print out this checklist, “7 Questions Every Advisor Should Be Able to Answer,” to use as a guide during the interview process.

Women tend to put their family’s financial priorities first: according to “Women and Financial Wellness: Beyond the Bottom Line,” a 2018 Merrill study conducted in partnership with Age Wave, 77% of women say they see money in terms of what it can do for their families. But you can’t shortchange your future self in the bargain. A 2018 Merrill study, “The Financial Journey of Modern Parenting: Joy, Complexity and Sacrifice,” found that 72% of parents put their children’s interests ahead of their own needs to save for retirement. Remember, your child can take out loans for college—no one is going to lend you money to fund your retirement.

If you can only contribute to one plan, make your retirement your priority.

Ask your financial advisor—or find an online calculator—to help you estimate how much you need to save for both goals. Then consider opening a Roth or traditional IRA, if you qualify, and start a tax-advantaged 529 account as well. Even if you start out gradually, make your savings automatic. Split your raises between your retirement and 529 plans. If you can only contribute to one, make your retirement your priority.

The 529 money can be used tax-free for education costs, and you may be able to get a state tax deduction for contributions, depending on where you live. “These state-sponsored accounts let you invest in portfolios that are made up of stocks, bonds or money-market securities, offering the potential for appreciation over the years,” explains Richard Polimeni, director, Education Savings Programs, Bank of America. Check out “Saving for School? How 529s Work” and “The Basics Q&A: Roth or Traditional IRA—Which Is Right for Me?” for more insights.

The financial implications of divorce can be significant for women: According to a report from the U.S. Government Accountability Office,² women’s household income fell by 41% following a divorce or separation after age 50, while men’s household income dropped by only 23%. Even if things are just starting to get rocky, it’s a good idea to seek advice from an attorney specializing in matrimonial law.

A financial advisor can help you figure out how much money you have and how much you’ll need going forward.

The legal issues and conventions vary widely from state to state, so don’t rely on advice from your friend across the country. You might consider talking with a financial advisor, who can help you figure out how much money you have and how much you’ll need going forward, suggests Kirstin Hill, managing director, Global Wealth and Investment Management at Bank of America.

Also, don’t forget about your and your spouse’s retirement accounts. They’re probably worth far more to your future financial security than, say, your home, so be clearheaded about how you divvy them up. For more insights, read “Divorce in Mid-Life: Fresh Starts, New Financial Challenges for Women.”

“Don’t be afraid to ask your family and financial advisor for help.”—Cynthia Hutchins, director of financial gerontology, Bank of America

When it comes to caring for sick or elderly family members, women are significantly more likely than men to become caregivers. And this can come with a hefty price tag—up to $324,000 in lost wages and benefits, according to “The Journey of Caregiving: Honor, Responsibility and Financial Complexity,” a 2017 Merrill study conducted in partnership with Age Wave. For some, caregiving can also be a cause of early retirement.

To ensure that you’re able to handle the responsibilities of caregiving without sacrificing your financial security, “talk to your family to lay out a plan, assess your current financial situation and don’t be afraid to ask your family and financial advisor for help,” suggests Cynthia Hutchins, director of financial gerontology at Bank of America. For more insights, check out “What Caregiving Costs Women.”

Working a few years longer can help you boost your income in retirement.

A large number of women are working in full-time jobs past their 60s and even into their 70s, according to the study “Women Working Longer: Facts and Some Explanations,” by Harvard economists Claudia Goldin and Lawrence F. Katz.³ In fact, the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics projects that by the end of this decade, about 20% of women over 65 will be in the labor force.

“If you enjoy your work and are up to it physically, it can allow you to keep making money, saving in retirement accounts and avoiding pulling out your savings for living costs,” says Cynthia Hutchins, director of financial gerontology at Bank of America . Working a few years longer can help you boost your income in retirement. Plus, you may also get employer-supplied health insurance—helping you postpone using your savings to cover health costs. A bonus: Studies show that the social and mental engagement of work is mentally and physically beneficial.

“Because many women are living into their 90s—or beyond—it’s more important than ever to maximize Social Security benefits.”—Lorna Sabbia, head of Retirement & Personal Wealth Solutions, Bank of America

Because many women are living into their 90s—or beyond—it’s more important than ever to maximize Social Security benefits, says Lorna Sabbia, head of Retirement & Personal Wealth Solutions at Bank of America. You can, of course, claim your “full” benefit at age 66, but for each year you wait after that, up to age 70, your monthly benefit increases by nearly 8%. So, if you can afford to hold off, you probably should.

That said, everyone’s situation is different, and it pays to think through all the options. Each spouse in a couple, for instance, may be able to claim benefits based either on their own work record or on 50% of their spouse’s benefit. For couples with large differences in earnings, claiming the spousal benefit may be better than claiming your own, says Sabbia. In cases where both spouses receive benefits, when one partner dies, only the higher of the two benefit amounts continues as a survivor benefit. Start the process by viewing your earnings record and projected benefits at www.ssa.gov. For more insights, check out “Social Security: Aiming for Smarter Payments.”

“Consider opening a health savings account, if you haven’t already done so, for the tax advantages they offer.”—Cynthia Hutchins, director of financial gerontology, Bank of America

Women’s health care costs are typically 39% higher than men’s during retirement, according to the Merrill /Age Wave study “Women and Financial Wellness: Beyond the Bottom Line.” What’s more, research from the journal Inquiry shows that 79% of women require long-term care at some point in their lives.⁴ So having a plan in place to cover your future medical costs is a good idea.

Account for them in your overall retirement planning and investment strategy, says Cynthia Hutchins, director of financial gerontology at Bank of America. “You can also consider opening a Health Savings Account (HSA), if you haven’t already done so, for the tax advantages they offer,” she adds. Once you file for Medicare at age 65, you’ll no longer be able to contribute to an HSA, but the funds invested in the account will continue to have the potential for growth, to help you pay for eligible health care expenses. For more insights, check out “By the Numbers: Will You Need Long-Term Care?”

“While it’s difficult to prepare for the emotional impact of losing your spouse, there are steps you can take now, as a couple, to prepare.”—Cynthia Hutchins, director of financial gerontology, Bank of America

Women are 3.5 times more likely to become widowed than men, according to 2018 widowhood research conducted by Merrill, in partnership with Age Wave.⁵ “While it’s difficult to prepare for the emotional impact of losing your spouse, there are steps you can take now, as a couple, to ensure that you are financially prepared for the next phase of your life,” says Cynthia Hutchins, director of financial gerontology at Bank of America. “Make sure that you both have easy access to all financial accounts and important papers. Create a will, assign power of attorney and confirm the beneficiary designations on your insurance and retirement plans.”

For more tips on how to prepare, print our checklist, “The Finances of Widowhood: Plan Ahead to Help Your Spouse Manage Loss.” Finally, take heart: According to the Merrill /Age Wave research on widowhood, 77% of widows discover courage they never knew they had while preparing to move forward after the loss of their spouse.⁶ For more insights, check out “Widowhood: The Loss Couples Rarely Plan for—and Should.”